1st year of marriage

The 1st year of a marriage is known as the "paper year". Why? It is in this trying year that married couples try to understand one another better in another way- living under the same roof, sharing responsibilities, household chores, money and many more. It is also the most vulnerable year of a marriage. Any untoward accident or argument will tear them apart. It is the most fragile year.
But all this could be viewed differently. In my opinion, the 1st year is a white sheet of paper where married couple will paint their life together, fill the paper with more thoughts and understandings of one another. It is also the time where they are to create and plan their dreams together, making married life colourful in their own way. It won't be as vulnerable and fragile if they constantly reflect their many challenges till this day.
The process of a relationship is like making paper; firstly we'll find the perfect log, cut it down, send it to the processing plant and there the log will undergo many rounds of treatments and such before a paper is being produced. In a relationship, we spend time to look for our perfect match, start to know them and so on, we'll go through many trials and tribulations. If we succeed, we move on and finally make the biggest decision in two persons life to be together as one. So the "paper year" is really an interesting year. Remember your roots(?) and stay on. Remember the love that you once build and continue to make it stronger.

Gist of a relationship

Do you wonder why some people can get so well together well others are like oil and water? What is it in their relationship? Is it their star match? their personality? or their mutual interest? Hmmm, interesting ain't it? All of these contribute to part of the relationship while importantly is communication. How do we connect with one another without talking? Good communication brings out a good relationship be it father/mother-children, brothers-sisters, friends, boyfriends-girlfriends, etc.
I believe that by communicating, we can express what we are thinking and the audience(s) can connect with us. Right?

It was a fairy tale

Cupid works his ways in many wonders.
When I was introduced to this guy, all I could say was "Who is this good looking dude?". No special feelings or what so ever. After knowing him more, he turned out to be a nice guy. Even though he is not a university graduate or any big shot, to be honest I'm proud of who he is. He has my full respect. At least he is earning a decent living and not just loiter around and still being a parasite to his family. Independent, loved and respected by his family and friends, that's him. We shared many happy times together. I felt comfortable and ar eased with him. However, things went wrong suddenly for no apparent reason. He went silent, cut off all forms of communications...why? I wondered many a times. It had been almost half a year I have lost contact with him but he is still haunting me. It's silly of me I know and I'm trying hard to move on. The hit song "Patience" by Take That expressed what i feel. I still bump into him not directly though occasionally. Well, how not to when we happened to live in the same housing estate? A fortnight ago, I heard that he is seeing another girl. If I happen to meet him with his new girl, bravely I'll wish him all the best and I hope that he is happy always sincerely.
People around me said that he is a coward. Yea, I don't hate him as a person but I'm disappointed by his guts. It will be better if he could tell me that he don't love me anymore or don't think that this relationship is going anywhere further. Sometimes silence is not golden. A guy friend suggested that either he is a coward and a jerk or he doesn't know how to tell me in order not to hurt me. Does this mean his love for me was so deep or he is just selfish? I don't have the answer to it and I might not be able to figure it out. All this could be solved if he explain to me one day but when???? Maybe one day.
I used to see him and talk to him every single day. Now, my days are most of the time dead. I try to fill my mornings with lots of activities but when night falls, it is horrible. So quiet, too quiet. I promise myself that I must move on and be happy again but it really not as easy as it sounds. If it so easy to forget someone, the person is not all that important to you, right? He has move on, does that mean that I wasn't as important as I thought I was in his life? I've no idea at all. I do realise that I probably come in like 3rd or 4th in his list of priorities when we were together. Well, he wasn't my number one either. Was I too busy till I neglected small little things that jeopardised the relationship? All I know is this time I fell too deep into the dungeon of love.
If I have one more chance, I would like to apologise if by any means I've made him felt intimidated. I respected him like any individual and I'm very proud to have known such a guy like him. All in all, I sincerely hope and pray that he'll be blessed with happiness and love always. May all his dreams come true!

A perfect wedding

Do you have a dream wedding? I dare say that every little girl has one, don't you? I do. I used to imagine having mine either in a garden or by the seaside. It definately must be held outdoor. I'd like it to be attended by all my family and friends, it's gonna be like a big gathering of some sort, with lots of happy laughters, nicely dressed women and groomed men, nice food and just perfect ambience - light breeze and warm sunshine. I want it to be decorated with lots of roses preferably white and pink ones, but the more colourful it is the better, as long as it is not too overwhelming of course. The aisle must be a spread of rose petals. Walking down the aisle with a classy yet modern gown with minimum frills and a bouquet of white lilies and the bird of paradise flowers to the song "From this Moment On" by Shania Twain played by a live band...these are all I dreamt of once upon a time.
I woke up from this dream after watching 'Love Concierge' a MediaCorp (Singapore) production. I realised that a perfect wedding no matter how lovely it going to be won't be complete or meaningful if the person you're to say 'I Do' and give your life to does not love you for who you are. To find someone and finally be together with the person you truly love and be able to stand hand in hand before the marriage registrar/priest is the best seal to a perfect wedding. It'll be perfect even if it just invovled a few close family members and friends, who come with their true blessings of happiness. You'll find this in couples who have surpassed the many challenges they'd faced, and when they say 'I Do', you'll be able to see the sparkle in their smiles, the glitter of their eyes and the glow in their faces. And it'll be touching till the well wishers can feel the power of their love for one another and be blessed with their love.
Lavish weddings are too superficial. Why bother to spend so much on a one day ceremony but not able to spend the most important things in your life with the person you truly love and cherish? Oh yes, money can buy one lots of things but never trade your life most precious with it.

Undeniably, all of us girls, want the dream wedding that we have properly planned out but most important, we too, want to be married to a guy that will give us true happiness and a blessed life journey together, don't we?
If you have found that special someone in your life that you can't live without, cherish them and tell them how important they are to you always. Don't wait, time waits for no man.